Mary E. Wehrenberg
Died: Mar 11, 2019

Mary Elizabeth Wehrenberg passed peacefully on March 11th, 2019 at the House of Good Shepherd in Hackettstown. Mary”E”, as she was known to family and friends, was born to William and Mary Sampson in Brooklyn, New York and resided there until moving to Rutherford, NJ as a teenager. Mary was always proud of her Brooklyn roots and loved to reminisce with fellow Brooklynites. She enjoyed telling stories of living in a large loving multi-generational home with a barn in back, and of her Irish Setter, Red.

Mary E graduated from Saint Mary’s High School in Rutherford, attended Farleigh Dickinson College and the Barbizon School of Modeling in NYC. She worked for Bell Telephone prior to her marriage to Harry B. Wehrenberg Jr. of Woodridge, NJ.


Mary and Harry were parents to 6 children; Carol, Mark, Richard, Robert, Karl and Eric. Needless to say, Mary had quite a few hilarious tales about the rambunctious antics and calamities in a large family. In 1965 Mary and Harry moved their family to what was then, very rural Schooley’s Mountain. There she became a devout parishioner of Our Lady of the Mountain Church, where she was a Eucharistic Minister and very involved in the Rosary Altar Society. In later years Mary was honored by Our Lady of the Mountain for her contributions. 

Harry passed away in 1984 and Mary’s indomitable spirit was an inspiration to all. She traveled all over the world, cruised the seas, took bus trips galore and always had comical stories with which to entertain. Mary was always on the phone, had many friends and could never get out of a store without running into several of them. Her famous phrase, “I’ll only be in there a couple of minutes” was known to be an outrageous lie! 

Mary was always impeccably dressed, bejeweled, perfectly coiffed, and had smiles for everyone. She was adored by her 16 grandchildren. Mary loved attending their games, recitals, concerts, graduations, weddings. etc – as long as her hair did not get wet and she could take hundreds of photographs! 

Her grandchildren loved spending time at her lake house in Lake Ariel; swimming, fishing, chasing cousins and dogs around the house and creating more stories for Mary to tell. There, around the oversized round table, they played endless games of Rummy King and Mahjong. There was way too much food, not enough sleep, but lots of laughter and plenty of cousin bonding. Her 11 great grandchildren held a special place in her heart.

Mary was especially close with her dear sister, Eleanor Baker. They were frequently called the Bobbsey Twins, not only due to their similar appearance, but personality traits. Eleanor has 5 children, so their stories combined could fill volumes. Mary and Eleanor talked almost every day and frequently traveled together. 

Mary was especially proud of her Irish roots and was known as “the mother with all the red headed boys”. On one of their most memorable trips together, she and Eleanor traveled to Ireland to the family homestead and reconnected with family members. 

Mary met Anthony DeVenezia at a retirement party for their parish priest. They were married and spent much time with their combined family and friends as well as frequent ravels to Naples, Florida.  Sadly, it only lasted for a short time before he passed away. But their time together was fun, and love filled.

Mary was also a resident of Panther Valley and a member of The Friends and Neighbors Association, The Villa Madonna Guild and The Red Hats. In recent years, she was a resident of The House of Good Shepherd, on their Welcoming Committee and Residents’ Advisory Council. 

Mary is survived by her daughter Carol Borman (Gary), sons Mark (Debbie), Richard (Robin), Robert, Karl (Diane), Eric (Seena) and her former daughter-in-law, Donna Roselli Allfather. Her 16 grandchildren, Devon Borman Kleindienst (Shane), Ashley Borman Lebo (Tyler), Christen Borman, John-Craig Borman, Michael, Mark, Matthew, Braden, Jamie, Alyssa, Robert, Jonathon, Karl Jr., Amber, Brenna and Colin Wehrenberg. Her great grandchildren, Max and Logan Kleindienst, Broderick and Teagan Lebo, Addison, Mark III, Mia, Tyler, Brandon, Gavin and Trip Wehrenberg and her dear sister Eleanor (Peter) Baker.

Calling hours will take place on Friday, March 15, 2019, from 9:30 am – 10:30 am at Cochran Funeral Home. 

A funeral service will also be held, Friday March 15, 2019 at 11:00 am at Our Lady of the Mountain Church, 2 East Springtown Road, Long Valley, NJ 07840.

In lieu of flowers donations to The House of the Good Shepherd 798 Willow Grove Street, Hackettstown, NJ 07840 would be greatly appreciated.


John Takacs
March 16th, 2019 7:59 am
My sencere condolances to the Wehrenberg Family on the passing of both Mary and Robert. They are at home in heaven where there is perfect joy and beauty.
Phil and Lisa Rongo
March 15th, 2019 3:47 pm
Carol, that was a truly beautiful remembrance. Having known your Mom for 20 + years, so much of what you'd written rings so-true. We initially met via a business relationship, but that soon blossomed into a great friendship. She was always quick to ask about my wife and children and always recalled the smallest of details. I'm sure you and your entire family know how proud she was of each and every-one of you. We're very sorry for your loss, I know your Mom will be deeply missed, but her smile and laughter will never be forgotten.
Audrie Nevin
March 15th, 2019 11:51 am
Dear Carol and family Mary will shine in all your lives forever. She was a lover of life and lived her life to the fullest. Her smile was radiant and she has wonderful children and many other family members and relatives and friends who will miss her greatly. I was Blessed to have known her and so enjoyed hearing about her trips and things she did. Keeping you all close to heart and may memories bring you all comfort now and always.
Ken Semmel
March 15th, 2019 9:31 am
Carol: That was beautifully written and your Mom was a very special lady. Wish I would have known her better and stayed up north to see you and family more often. She IS an angel now and watching over your wonderful family. God bless you all.
Jessi Sohl and Family
March 14th, 2019 9:02 pm
Carol and family. I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Your mother sounds like she was an amazing woman to know! May your time spent together and many memories help ease your heartache.
The Illnick family
March 14th, 2019 4:43 pm
Dear Eric and family, We are so sorry for your life. Please accept our sincerest condolences and prayers to help you through this difficult time. Fondly, Frank, Becky and Josh
Steven Pullara
March 14th, 2019 12:26 pm
On behalf of our Pullara family; Dad, Dina, Paul & Myself, we extend our condolences to our beloved Aunt Mary's family. So many fine and fun memories are filling our memories and hearts of spending time with her, Uncle Harry and their kids that we call honorary cousins. Aunt Mary was was always upbeat and truly a smile that we all looked forward to. She was always positive and truly concerned about how everybody was doing an feeling. Our family will miss her and trust that she is the arms of Jesus, plus may probably be one of the best dressed women in heaven. We feel that Aunt Mary, Uncle Harry and our Mom are all praying for us all and greeting each other in the next life. God Bless and may God rest Aunt Mary's soul! Love, The Mary & Charlie Pullara Family who are Charlie, Steven, Paul & Chris and their children, Dina & Kevin and their Children
Maureen Smith
March 13th, 2019 8:25 pm
I meant Mary about 32,, years ago at our Lady of the Mt. Church .She was so kind and caring when I first joined the church. Made me feel so comfortable and welcomed. And always looked fantastic. She had a great heart. She will be missed.
Pat Costantino
March 13th, 2019 3:30 pm
So sorry to hear of the passing of Mary. She will be truly missed. I remember my Mom and Dad being close to both Mary and Harry. I hope they are all dancing and having fun in heaven. My love and deepest sympathy to her family and friends
Rich, Carol and Family
March 13th, 2019 11:59 am
We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Mary was a wonderful women and lived her live to the fullest.
R Jackson
March 13th, 2019 8:52 am
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March 12th, 2019 9:37 pm
Mary was my first friend when we moved to Schooleys Mtn. We moved into the house next door. She remained my friend all of these years. I am saddened by her death. She will always be in my heart. I will miss her.
Maureen G.
March 12th, 2019 4:58 pm
Dear Family of Mary, As we hear the 'bells' chime upon heaven's newest arrival, may loving memories and prayers comfort you.
Christopher Donovin
March 12th, 2019 3:51 pm
I had the opportunity speak with Mom before her passing, most recently on mother's day. We spoke and reminisced, She alway had a way of kidding around with me as an adult, reminding me of what kind kid I was back in the day. I was a bit mischievous and really did not know a whole lot, but she always made me feel welcomed and part of the family as her 6th son, even when she was reprimanding for doing something silly. I remembering laughing as we talked. I will miss her and I was proud to have been her 6th son.
Cynthia Ruggiero
March 12th, 2019 3:21 pm
So sorry to hear the news. Mary was a true Matriarch and will surely be missed by her family.
Pam & Andy Wildrick
March 12th, 2019 3:20 pm
We are so sorry for this news. May the memories of happier times help you through these sad days.
March 12th, 2019 12:12 pm
It is with great sadness that Mary has passed. I was her hairdresser for 32 years. When my mom was in HGS she would visit with her, My mom called her "Pretty Mary" I just visited with her last week and It took her awhile to wake up, but then we had great conversation for 45 min She was wonderful women and friend and I will miss her. God Bless
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