Allison Joan Carlo (nee Wychules), aged 50, passed away unexpectedly on December 18, 2024, in Hackettstown, N.J. Allison was a beloved mother, stepmother, daughter, wife, sister, aunt, and friend. She spent her life in service to others as a Registered Nurse and volunteer Emergency Medical Technician. She will be forever remembered and missed.
Allison was born on August 24, 1974, in Stoughton, Massachusetts. She first grew up in Bridgewater, MA, then in Cape Cod, MA, and finally, for most of her youth, in Verona, NJ, where she graduated from Verona High School. During her high school years, she began a lifelong pursuit of service to others by volunteering with the Verona Rescue squad and becoming an Emergency Medical Technician (EMT) and serving as a Lieutenant. She attended Radford University in Virginia, earning a bachelor’s degree and afterwards decided to pursue a career in nursing, graduating from the Mountainside School of Nursing in Glen Ridge, NJ.
Allison was truly a devoted and caring nurse. She worked at Hackettstown Regional Medical Center in the Progressive Care step down unit, then eventually found her way to the Summit Health Group, working as a case management oncology nurse, where she excelled in coordinating treatment for patients going through a life changing cancer diagnosis. She worked tirelessly with her co-workers and deeply valued the treatment and care provided by Dr. Michael Wax. Allison continued to volunteer as an EMT from 2008 to 2010, this time at Budd Lake First Aid and Rescue Squad, serving as a Crew Chief and Treasurer. This is also where she met her best friend who later became the love of her life, Frank Carlo.
Allison was a loving mother to her 14-year-old son Harrison Young. She greatly supported his love for music, always talking about his natural skill playing guitar and trombone. She was also stepmother to Frank’s 20-year-old daughter, Hailey, who she considered as a daughter and friend. Allison was immensely proud when Hailey began college at Montclair State University.
Allison was loved dearly by her family – she is survived by her mother, Marion, stepfather, Joseph, father, Michael, her sister Naomi, her brother Brian, and their loving families. She was never happier as she was a caring wife to Frank Carlo, who she married in 2019. They loved going to toy and collectibles shows, watching the New York Rangers and WWE, and just simply doing everything together.
Allison will most be remembered for her amazing hugs, her thoughtfulness, her ability to listen, and her devotion and care for others. She did not like receiving gifts, but she was the best present giver ever, which is a true characterization of her selflessness. Her family still feels her loving presence with them.
A celebration of Allison’s life will be held on Saturday, December 28th, from 2-5pm at the Budd Lake First Aid and Rescue Squad, 365 US-46, Budd Lake, NJ. All family and friends are welcome to join the celebration. The family would like to continue her care and consideration for others by asking loved ones to consider a donation to St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital in her memory: Online Donations – St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital
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Laken G. says
December 23, 2024 at 6:24 pmAllison and I were building a friendship in the office where she was our oncology nurse. We started off a little rocky, but she turned out to be one of my favorite people here. She had such an amazing heart and truly was a light. The office will never be the same without her here. She is already so very much missed!
Lynn O’Neill, patient and fan says
December 29, 2024 at 2:34 amMy mom, dad, husband and I have been/are patients of Dr. Wax. I have many stories about how Allison could read Dr. Wax’s mind. And her infamous linev “that’s my story and I’m sticking with it” responses, which were always right!
Allison usually knew what Dr. Wax wanted before he told her. Their partnership was incredible. You could see the mutual admiration. They were a great team.
Allison helped me through so many difficult times, as my mom, my dad, my husband and I battled cancer. This past April when I was having a particularly difficult time suporting my husband’s 3rd bout with cancer, I went to Allison to request help to be dismissed from jury duty. She was amazing, so kind and patient and understanding. So helpful. I was so low, and so thankful for her help. I started to cry and said about my husband “he doesn’t deserve this.” She stopped what she ws doing, looked me square in the eye and said “neither do you”. No one ever said that to me before or since. She got it. That one moment of kindness, compassion and understanding has given me the strength to keep going.
She did so, so much to help us, but that moment of compassion will stick in my momd forever.
I’m so sorry for your loss, Allison was truly an angel on earth. May your memories keep you inspired. She loved her family and spoke proudly of you, often.. Never forget how proud she was of you, and how deeply she loved you.
You don’t know me, I’, just one of her patients, but I wantedb you to know the profound impact she had on the world. May she restvin peace.
Kelly RIvers says
December 30, 2024 at 6:55 pmI had the privilege of working with Allison in the Oncology office for the past 2 years.
Allison never turned me away when something unexpected came up which wasn’t on the script that I trained for when I first joined the team.
She had the ability to sense my uneasiness and turned it all around with jokes from someone she was following on Facebook. I would take those jokes home to my sons, whom would “send” me to my bedroom and tell me I was lame. We had good laughs over their responses, as well.
I didn’t see Allison on Dec 17th in Dr Wax’s office when I first walked in so I sent her a text which reads, “I know you are not here today but I just wanted to say, ” hi” and wish you well ;]”
You are deeply missed, my friend!